Friday, December 23, 2011
A few more lovely foreskin pictures as blog decoration. They all came from http://foreskinfriday.tumblr.com/.
A bit of drama this week but thank goodness, none of it involved me directly. My wife had a screaming fight with our 15-year-old son on Sunday and he phoned to say he was moving back in with me "permanently." After a lengthy discussion with my sobbing wife who also wanted him "out", he's been with me all week.
We strongly feel that all the kids would benefit from spending time with each of us. Also, just between us girls, I wouldn't actually want him with me full-time. After a cooling-down period, my son returned to my wife's house for the weekend.
My wife has never been able to cope with the occasional sullen behaviour of a teenager. I reminded her that she was the adult in the situation and that a little self-control would go a long way. Her problem is that she is always has to be right and always has to have the last word. I told her that our daughter finds it stressful being in the same house with them .... she is constantly being called upon to referee their disputes. When they're not actually fighting, they are constantly provoking each other until a fight does break out. Neither of them has the sense to know when to stop.
By contrast, my son and I rarely fight; he gets more cooperative, talkative and friendly with me as time goes on. However, we rarely talk about emotions or personal matters; instead, we talk about his latest welding project or what we should do to fix the carburetor on the ski-doo.
During these times of stress, my wife continues to harp on the fact that my being gay is "damaging" to our son and causing the conflict between them. Grow up!! For the first time since I came out to him 10 months ago, I asked him, "Does it bother you that I am gay?" He said that he couldn't care less.... it makes no difference to him at all. He also added that all of his friends think that I am the coolest Dad ever. (I don't know if they know I'm gay... probably not)
None of this drama has affected the warm relationship that now exists between me and my wife. We have many phone, text or e-mailed conversations every day and they continue to be full of compassion and concern. I don't understand this transformation but won't complain ... but it certainly makes the process of getting divorced go a lot smoother.
Tonight, both daughters are with me. The birthday girl (17 years old) is night skiing with a gaggle of friends at a ski resort about two miles away. In three hours, they will descend upon the house for food and a movie-night sleepover. I must sign off .... there is much to do, much to do!
at 6:02 PM